Reclaiming your time

As moms we often lose track of time and find ourselves so engaged in our children’s lives that we forget about our own needs. In talking to other moms at work this week I’ve heard over and over how stressed everyone feels and how little time they think they have to accomplish anything. When I suggest they really need some time for themselves they look at me as if I’m crazy. How could they possibly find time for themselves?

Here are a couple of suggestions:

Start small. If the idea of 15 minutes is just too much for you, how about 3 minutes? Can you take 3 minutes to close the bathroom door and sit down? (Sit on the toilet if needed, feel free to close the lid). Now take a few deep breaths. Close your eyes. Be with yourself.

Schedule it. If you’re ready to expand to 15 minutes of “me time”, schedule it into your day. If you keep an agenda or planner, write it down. Make an appointment with yourself and keep it. Honor yourself and your need for time. I take some time while my son is completing his homework or working on the computer, before my husband comes home from work and before I start cooking dinner. Sometimes it’s even longer and no one has expired yet while I was sitting and writing or drawing.

Wake up earlier. Kids too young to be unsupervised? I know this sounds counter intuitive because other than time starvation most new moms are also sleep starved, but try waking up 15 minutes earlier and take some time for yourself then. Maybe you could write in a journal, meditate a little, or just sit. What do you miss most that you used to do before you were a mom? A hot bath with no rubber ducks or Lego boats in the tub? Take them out! And be very, very quiet.

Once you realize how wonderful it feels to have a little time to yourself you’ll be ready to look for more. I’ll share some other strategies for finding time on my next post.

Until then, enjoy your 3-15 minutes of solitude!

3 thoughts on “Reclaiming your time”

  1. I am also a very busy mom of 3 plus a husband. I have a full time job, I run my part time Online business from home, a house to clean, meals to cook, dishes to wash, laundry, etc, etc….you know what I am talking about.
    What I want to share with you it is that I have been practicing stillness Meditation for many years, since my children were younger. At first it was REALLY hard take even 5 minutes of my so busy schedule.

    However, little by little, with time and patience I am now practicing 20 minutes each morning!!! I can tell you IT IS WORTH IT: Meditation makes a HUGE difference in your day and life. To me it is a Healing and Transforming experience!!!

    I will suggest you start your day with 2 or 3 DEEP BREATH, just that simple exercise will help.

    I also have found that GUIDED Meditations are a wonderful tools for those of us having really hard time quieting the mind. I personally love guided meditation. I just finished a set of 21 Days Meditation Experience with Oprah Winfrey & Deepak Chopra (Free resources they offer from time to time- http://store.chopra.com/?apn=AC1402215) and it was one of the most beautiful experiences of my life.

    I do really recommend you to take some minutes (morning, afternoon or evening, whatever works best for you), you will see a difference in yourself and you will have more energy and a more “relax way” to deal with your busy day!!!!

    Blessings!!!
    Inma
    http://www.pcrh.net (Online Support for Natural Health & Healing)

    1. Thanks so much for your insightful reply. I started meditating about 2 years ago through a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction program based on the work of Jon Kabat-Zinn. I agree that meditation is really life changing and so worthwhile. My current practice is about 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes in the afternoon, primarily during my daily commute by train to work. It’s not ideal but it works with my schedule and makes my day go smoother at work and re-uniting with my son in the afternoon more peaceful. I also do breathing breaks throughout the day using a timer to remind me. Funny that we sometimes need to be reminded to breathe!
      Thanks for the Deepak Chopra resource. I’ll definitely check it out!

  2. Thank you for your beautiful comments!!! It is true, we forget during the day to even make a quick stop and take a deep breath and relax! My husband gave me an even beyond exercise if you work in front of a computer most of your day: every 20 minutes or so to stand up to answer your phone or just to stretch your body while continue working.. simple little things that add to our health.

    Have a Blessed Day!
    Inma
    http://www.pcrh.net For Natural Health & Heanling

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